My Reality
As a certified Sexologist & Embodiment Coach based in London, I bring a unique blend of expertise and passion to our work together. With a deep trauma-informed understanding and lived experience of Women’s Trauma, neurodivergence and chronic stress, I'm perfectly equipped to support you on your journey to authentic self-discovery and embodiment.
Having been late-diagnosed with ADHD in my late 20s, I am incredibly aware of the challenges and liberation that comes with adult neurodivergent diagnosis and very aware of how some small tweaks may have saved me a lot of pain and trauma, if anyone knew what to watch for. I am very self aware and comfortable hearing and holding what may feel unsayable in any other circumstance with kindness and care.
My professional background spans the realms of government, charity, health, and academia, providing me with a well-rounded perspective on the challenges and opportunities we face in embracing our somatic truth. As a certified Art Therapist & published author, I bring a creative and intuitive approach to our sessions, ensuring that our work together is both transformative and engaging.
I've carefully crafted a safe, supportive, and non-judgmental space where you can fearlessly explore your sexuality, tap into your innate wisdom, and unlock the joy, pleasure, and connection that lie within. Our work together is a collaborative process, guided by your enthusiastic, embodied, and informed consent every step of the way. My role is to support you in unlearning limiting patterns, reconnecting with your authentic self, and claiming the pleasure that is your birthright.
Fully Certified, Accredited & Insured Practitioner
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Certified Somatic Sexological Bodyworker (CSSB/CSB) - Sea School of Embodiment, 2021
Certified Embodied Sex Coach - Sea School of Embodiment, 2021
Polyvagal Theory & PTSD Yoga - Rewire Therapy, 2021
Certified Art Therapist - Evergreen Certifications, 2022
Womens Trauma Coach - PESI, 2022
Polyvagal Theory & PTSD Yoga - Rewire Therapy, 2021
ADHD Coach - Evergreen Certifications, 2023
48 Universal Laws/Law Of Attraction/Assumption Coach - Assorted teachers, schools & thought leaders - 2024
Somatic Integrative Couples Coaching[In Progress]
2:1 Bachelor of Arts Degree in Politics & International Relations with focus on Morality, Gender, Terrorism & Religious Extremism -The University of Leeds - 2014
Traditionally & self published author and poet - Assorted publishers
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Somatic Trauma Healing ; Embodied Conflict Resolution & Non Violent Communication ; Mind Body Toolkit for Change & Transformation ; Somatic Attachment Healing ; Creating Concious Relationships ; Embodied Boundaries & Resilience ; Healing Intergenerational Trauma ; Embodying Creativity ; Embodying Leadership ; Embodying Resilience ; Embodying Love & Relationships; Trauma & Healing Through Somatics & Yoga ; Healing with Nature: Embodiment and Ecopsychology ; Embodied Transformation & Liberation ; Renew & Manifest ; Deep Rest & Restoration ; Mind-Body Medicine ;Plant Medicine & Psychedelic Assisted Therapies ;Boundaries & Self Care ; Body As Nature ; Genesis of Wellbeing ; Embodied Journey Within
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Orgasmic Magick / Sexual Sorcery
Altered Conciousness
Channelling States
Quantum Jumping/Shifting
Human Design
Reiki
Yoga for Complex PTSD
Tarot & Divination
As a committed Professional Member of the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers (ACSB) and The Association of Somatic and Integrative Sexologists (ASIS), I am dedicated to upholding their ethical codes and standards in all aspects of my work with clients. Depending on the specific modality of our sessions, different intake processes, frameworks, boundaries, and codes of ethics will apply to ensure a clear and professional working relationship.
While various modalities can often address similar topics, it's crucial that we establish a clear agreement upfront about the framework we will be working within for each session. This means that we will not unexpectedly switch between different types of work, such as incorporating hands-on bodywork into a talk-based coaching session, without prior discussion and consent. If there is a mutual desire to explore a different modality, we will have an open conversation beforehand to re-establish the boundaries and professional guidelines for our work together. To maintain clarity and consistency, I recommend that we avoid frequently alternating between modalities.
I deeply respect and honor the trust that my clients place in me and the often vulnerable or sensitive nature of the topics and experiences that may arise during our work together. I am committed to maintaining strict confidentiality and will not disclose to anyone that we are working together or share any details from our sessions, with two exceptions:
1. If I have reason to believe that there is a significant risk of harm to yourself or others, I may seek professional support to ensure everyone's safety and well-being.
2. If you request that I collaborate with another professional, such as a therapist, I will obtain your explicit permission and guidance regarding what information you would like me to share about our work.
As part of my ongoing professional development, I engage in regular mentoring and supervision sessions. During these sessions, I may discuss aspects of our work through the lens of my own experience and learning edges, but I will not disclose any personally identifying information about you to my supervisor(s) or mentor(s).
Given my involvement in various communities centered around embodied practices, conscious sexuality, and alternative relating, there may be instances where we have mutual friends, connections, or interests, or where we encounter each other outside of our sessions at events or gatherings. Should this occur, I will honor any agreements we have made regarding how we interact in such situations. If we have not yet established such an agreement, I will follow your lead on how we engage (or not). While you are free to disclose our professional relationship to others if you choose, I will always maintain the confidential nature of our work.
The foundation of all my work is built upon consent and boundaries, with a specific focus on empowering my clients to recognize, trust, value, and communicate their wants and needs, drawing from the principles of Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent. It is essential to acknowledge both the explicit and implicit power dynamics that exist within a practitioner/client relationship and how these can impact our ability to make fully autonomous choices.
To maintain clear professional boundaries and avoid potential ethical dilemmas, I do not engage in any form of personal friendship with clients while we are actively working together. Furthermore, I will not pursue any romantic or intimate relationship or friendship with potential or previous clients for at least one year following our last professional contact.
During my last sexbod session, I asked my body to describe me. We said…
We are an insatiable force, driven by a kaleidoscopic imagination and a brilliant mind that blazes with intensity. An old renaissance soul who relishes intellectual delights, embodied joys, and the transcendent power of voice and creativity. Only the mind-bending, thunderous, hilarious or seriously dark can satisfy your thirst for stories. You seek the highest pleasures as a worshipper of the sacred flesh - you are descended from the witches they failed to burn.
Fearless yet protective, you walk an audacious and often traumatising path. A warm, empathetic soul who dives into profound intimacy, yet fiercely guards solitary communion with your tempestuous depths. Your belief systems flow and evolve as authentic expressions of this present breath. You are a shapeshifter, an emotional maelstrom, a supernova of thoughts and desires hurtling towards new frontiers. An elemental woman - chaotic creative force, controlled chaos incarnate. Unshackled, answerable only to your own wild rhythm.
How might your body describe you?
Client Testimonies
"Through these sessions, I rekindled an unwavering connection with my body as source of power and truth. Kirsty is a profound guide."
- Michelle“I wanted to express how much I enjoyed our session, it was such a wonderful experience for me and I do appreciate that it was so liberating and also very spiritual for me, it is quite hard to describe but I loved it and I cannot wait for our next session.”
- Mark"The embodiment work allowed me to energetically release decades of shame and be seen fully for the first time. I'm so grateful."
- Sarah
Our essence is impossible to summarise
Particularly in a world that often stifles our somatic sexual health, freedom, and education. All you truly need to know about me is that I'm here to champion your right to an embodied, erotic, and authentic life. Through our work together, you'll discover newfound spaciousness, security, and resilience within yourself, allowing you to navigate life's challenges with grace and ease. Get ready to embark on a profound journey of self-exploration, healing, and transformation.
Whether you're seeking to heal from trauma, explore your sexuality, or simply deepen your connection to yourself, I welcome you with open arms. No judgment, no expectations – just a commitment to your growth and empowerment.
Are you ready to choose yourself, choose pleasure, and feel truly alive? Let's embark on this transformative journey together.
Wishing you peace and joy in whatever you choose,
Kirsty May
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